How visualization is used as a tool for drawing our desires out of the world of the formless into the world of the formed.
The vision that you glorify in your mind, the idea that you enthrone in your heart - this you will build your life by; this you will become. James Allen
The third spiritual step* in manifesting miracles and attracting all that you desire into your life entails using the gift of visualization. Visualization is our god-given ability to paint a mental picture of what we desire. As Aristotle said, the soul never thinks without a picture.
In 1999 I discovered a story that illustrated this truth in remarkably simple terms. I was reading a book titled 100 Ways to Motivate Yourself by Steve Chandler. Chandler had been a sports columnist for the Tucson Citizen. In1976 he was assigned to do a feature story on an unknown Austrian actor. As Chandler put it, it was to be a story he would never forget. (And, I might add, it was to be a story I would never forget). The interview took place over lunch at a Doubletree hotel. As the two men sat across from each other, Chandler reported that no heads turned to look at the actor. No one recognized him. Even Chandler knew very little about him, other than the fact that he had achieved success as a body builder and was now in town publicizing a movie that had been a box office disappointment. During their conversation, Chandler casually asked the actor what he was going to do now that he had retired from bodybuilding. In a matter of fact voice and without missing a beat, the actor replied in his thick Austrian accent, "I'm going to become the number one box office star in all of Hollywood." Chandler was taken off guard by the naïve, boldness of his statement. After all, commented Chandler to his readers, a thick Austrian accent and hulking physique didn't exactly make good box office material. Doing his best to disguise his shock and amusement, Chandler calmly asked him how he planned on accomplishing his task. The actor replied in the same matter of fact tone. "It's the same process I used in body building. "What you do is create a vision of who you want to be, and then live into that picture, as if it were already true." I'm sure you're figured out by now, that that actor was Arnold Swarzenegger.
Arnold's story is remarkably simple. Yet the plain and powerful truth of it is undeniable. It illustrates in twenty first century terms what everyone in every tradition has recognized since the beginning of time. We human beings have the unique power of being able to transform the circumstances of our lives through the power of visualization. This power to create a picture that the soul never thinks without is part of our divine heritage, for it is the very same power that was used to create us. Every person alive has been bequeathed the divine power of visualization. Some are more talented at using it than others. These are the ones that realize that this power flourishes when it is aligned with the purpose for which it was created -- to give and extend love, joy, peace and abundance. When we give our imagination free reign to make mental pictures of this type we can manifest miracles.
Is it really as simple as this? Yes. It is. The wall that stands between us and the truth of it is doubt. Our enemy is always within. But our doubt diminishes when we come face to face with the fact that we use the power of visualization every moment of every day. The smallest actions that we take are necessarily preceded by the formation of a mental picture. The simple act of getting up and walking across the room requires that we first make a mental picture of it. In the words of A Course In Miracles, There is no such thing as idle thought. All thought produces form at some level. Therefore, each time we glorify in our minds and enthrone in our hearts our desire to overcome a life long fear, finally get the job we want, stop an addiction, reconcile or find a loving relationship - we are taking the initial step of concretizing and giving form to our desire. Every mental image acts as a prayer asking for the thing that we are glorifying and enthroning to be released from the realm of the formless into the realm of the formed. Since we are thinking all the time, the implications of this are that we are actually praying all the time. Once we become conscious of this we begin to pay closer attention to what we're visualizing and how we use visualization to create our lives.
It is important to realize in all of this that visualization does not ask for anything new to be created. As the scripture tells us, there is nothing new under the sun. Visualization is the art of drawing to us a new expression of what has already been created. It is a means of calling forth that which already exists out of the world of the formless into the world of the formed. Our genius is expression not creation. In fact, all great artist of any ilk are essentially expressing something not creating it. They are tapping into the realm of the formless and giving it new form through their unique expression. That's why all great art seems so familiar to us. We recognize it as something we've somehow already seen or heard. Our hearts rejoice in its proverbial, simple truth. .
When we really understand this we realize the truth of Arnold Swarzenegger's approach to our heart's desire. The first step is to crate a vision of who we want to be. This means that we make a mental picture of how improved our lives will be, when, for example, we step into our new career. The next step is to live into the picture as if it were already true, because, the fact of the matter is, it IS true. Once again, the rock that stands between us and the simplicity of this is our doubting ego. Michelangelo was a visionary artist. He could "see" his "creations" before they were expressed. It is said that he saw David hidden in the marble before he chiseled him out and "released" him from his rocky prison. Our job is much the same as Michelangelo's. We must "see" what we desire in our minds eye then chisel away the excess marble of our ego until our desire is released into our lives.
We need not concern ourselves about the specifics of how things will unfold or what we might come up against along the way. Our scope of awareness is too limited to know how many intricate details must fall into place before our desire can be fulfilled. We must let go and let the universe handle the details as they say. Our job is to do our homework, hold fast to our vision, accept life, extend love, be forgiving and patiently chisel away at the rock as we wait for the necessary things to fall into place.
Rest assured, the universe will not fail in revealing to us the things to which we must pay attention along the way. If we need to become more trusting, more giving, more fearless, more confident, less jealous, less judgmental, etc. life will give us plenty of opportunities to correct our thinking in this regard. It's as though we offer up our visualizations as a prayer to the universe and it answers back by showing us the things we have to change in our selves in order to breakthrough the firewall that is separating us from our desire. Ironically, patience and the willingness to take our lessons along the way are the just right ingredients for speeding up the process of manifesting our visualizations. Undoubtedly our progress will include one step forward and two steps backward. But after all, it has been said that the road to success is always under construction. We must realize this and not push or try to make things happen. There's a gentle balance that is required between asking for things and waiting to receive them. When we push to make things happen or try too hard, rest assured they won't. You can't pound grass to make it grow or push a bird's wings to make it fly. We cannot force or control things. Any thinking person knows that the only thing we have any control over in life is us. The best way to be in "control" is to relax so that we can be flexible and yielding to the forces that come our way. This allows for the natural unfolding of life. There is an ancient Chinese poem that expresses this point beautifully.
At birth all people are soft and yielding. At death they are hard and stiff All green plants are tender and yielding. At death they are brittle and dry. When hard and rigid We consort with death. When soft and flexible, We affirm greater life.
Lao Chu
Our patience and flexibility at accepting whatever comes our way affirms our faith in the greater life that we have visualized. Obstacles come our way for a reason. (More on this later.) When asking for miracles we are asking for ways to transcend obstacles not fight them.
Meanwhile, we must quietly go about our business and be silent about the inner work that we are doing and the changes we are attempting to manifest. We must be like a mother eagle sitting on top of our un-hatched eggs, keeping them warm, hidden and protected from predators. Talking about our desires gives them premature birth. It weakens their ability to manifest to the fullest extent. Moreover, talking about what we're up to more often than not involves looking for approval -- another activity of the ego. We must be ever vigilant against allowing our energy to be weakened in any way by the ego.
To summarize, here are the seven key steps for using the gift of visualization to manifest miracles:
1. Create an inner vision of who you want to be and the changes you want to make in your life. Picture how your life will improve when you realize all that you desire. 2. Align your purpose with giving and extending love, joy, peace and abundance for all concerned.
3. Know that what you want already exists and needs only the right conditions to come together to allow for its fullest manifestation. Those "right conditions" are outside your ken.
4. Keep your ego at bay. Do not allow it to inject fear, doubt, worry, pride or feelings of unworthiness into the picture.
5. Act as if what you want is already fulfilled because it is. Do not be concerned about the how of it.
6. Be patient, gentle and yielding to the forces that come your way. Everything is happening for a reason.
7. Keep silent. Contain your energy and prevent premature birth or dissipation of your energy.
*This is the third of nine spiritual steps for manifesting miracles -- an excerpt from my book of the same title.
The Most Effective Fat Burning And Muscle Building Workout T
Most people who want to burn off some excess pounds and tighten and tone their bodies simply don't have 2 hours each day to spend in the gym performing the bodybuilding style workouts that most "fitness experts" recommend. Plus, these workouts consist of exercises and techniques that do not exercise the body in the way it is normally used so they end up building a somewhat unusable strength. In my opinion, most people, unless their main objective is body building, shouldn't perform the traditional style workouts
While I do still believe that machine and free weight strength training is the best choice for body building, it is NOT the best choice when it comes to general fitness goals like strength, flexibility, endurance, etc.
I don't know about you, but I can barely fit in 15 minutes for exercise let alone 2 hours. and I personally am not interested in muscle size alone (which doesn't mean strength and usually leaves you stiff and inflexible)! I'm sure your schedule is probably the same. The good news though is you don't have to. you can burn fat, increase flexibility, build unbelievable strength and endurance, reshape your body, and build a level of fitness that is truly functional.
I want to share with you a workout that I do personally that delivers a great combination of strength, flexibility, cardio and muscular endurance, and fat burning.
WARNING: The following workout will not only surprise you, but it will likely go against everything you ever thought to be true about fitness. Also, it is recommend you consult your physician before beginning any exercise program.
Are you ready? Good, here it is:
The following exercises should be performed with little or no rest between and you may need to adjust the number of repetitions or time depending upon your current fitness level.
This workout will deliver more usable fitness results and benefits than any traditional gym or health club workout. Now, you can of course implement this type of workout in the gym and make it even better, but the beauty of this is you can do it anywhere!
Also, this is just one example and as you can imagine, there thousands of other exercises you can add or replace. I actually recommend switching the exercises every 2-4 weeks or even better is to put together 3 or 4 different workouts and then rotate them.
If you are not familiar with one of the exercises just replace it with one you know that works the same part of the body. You can also learn all of these exercises along with dozens of others in my soon to be released video which will consists of several workouts like this that you can do anywhere to build and maintain awesome levels of fitness, even workouts with dumbbells, swiss balls, medicine balls, and more. watch for it in coming months.
While I do still believe that machine and free weight strength training is the best choice for body building, it is NOT the best choice when it comes to general fitness goals like strength, flexibility, endurance, etc.
I don't know about you, but I can barely fit in 15 minutes for exercise let alone 2 hours. and I personally am not interested in muscle size alone (which doesn't mean strength and usually leaves you stiff and inflexible)! I'm sure your schedule is probably the same. The good news though is you don't have to. you can burn fat, increase flexibility, build unbelievable strength and endurance, reshape your body, and build a level of fitness that is truly functional.
I want to share with you a workout that I do personally that delivers a great combination of strength, flexibility, cardio and muscular endurance, and fat burning.
WARNING: The following workout will not only surprise you, but it will likely go against everything you ever thought to be true about fitness. Also, it is recommend you consult your physician before beginning any exercise program.
Are you ready? Good, here it is:
The following exercises should be performed with little or no rest between and you may need to adjust the number of repetitions or time depending upon your current fitness level.
- Jumping Jacks -1 minute
- Bodyweight squat (one-leg squat for advanced) - 15-20 reps
- Push-ups (slower reps for advanced) - as many reps as possible
- Kick butts (jog in place and kick your rear with both heels) - 1 minute
- Hamstring floor bridge (use swiss ball or one leg for advanced) - 15-20 reps
- Superman (lying on stomach w/ arms out to side, lift legs and chest off floor) - 15-20 reps
- High knees (jog in place lifting knees as high as possible) - 1 minute
- Stationary lunge - 15-20 reps
- Torso rotations/twists - 20 reps each direction
- Side bends/reaches - 20 reps each direction
- Mountain climbers - 1 minute (if you can J)
- Wall sit - as long as you can hold it
- Dips (use chair/bench/stairs) - as many reps as possible
This workout will deliver more usable fitness results and benefits than any traditional gym or health club workout. Now, you can of course implement this type of workout in the gym and make it even better, but the beauty of this is you can do it anywhere!
Also, this is just one example and as you can imagine, there thousands of other exercises you can add or replace. I actually recommend switching the exercises every 2-4 weeks or even better is to put together 3 or 4 different workouts and then rotate them.
If you are not familiar with one of the exercises just replace it with one you know that works the same part of the body. You can also learn all of these exercises along with dozens of others in my soon to be released video which will consists of several workouts like this that you can do anywhere to build and maintain awesome levels of fitness, even workouts with dumbbells, swiss balls, medicine balls, and more. watch for it in coming months.
The New State Of The Art Method For Making Money With Joint
If you are anything like me, you spend a lot of time researching joint ventures and going through the chore of analysing all the joint venture proposals you get on a daily basis in your inbox. I've often wondered if there was an easier way to find successful joint ventures, as serious marketers online all know the power of joint venture marketing.
In fact, some marketers have told me that if they could only utilize one marketing strategy it would be joint ventures fullstop.
If you have got a product or service to promote you know joint ventures are essential to your business. Joint ventures are when two or more people work on the same project. The most lucrative way to benefit from joint ventures is to let other people sell your product or service and share the profits with you. Some examples of cross promotions would be exchanging popups and testimonials.
In my online experience recently I have noticed that some forms of ezine advertising did not pull the results that would have been expected. If you are also spending hard earned money on ezine advertising there is a better and easier way.
An example of a joint venture unrelated to internet marketing would be a gym coming together with a company that produces body building supplements.
Joe Vitale made $25,000 from joint ventures from just one email.
So if you want to explore more fully the lucrative world of joint venture marketing how do you go about finding joint venture partners?
Old-fashioned ways of finding joint venture partners:
The new state-of-the-art way of finding joint venture partners:
By subscribing to Joint Ventures Weekly. Once in a while an ezine comes along that makes me sit up and take notice. My good friend Mike Woo-Ming has created such an ezine.
Each week you will receive a list of the TOP joint ventures for the hottest internet products and services.
Each joint venture is carefully screened and analysed before it reaches your inbox. If it doesn't meet the relevant criteria you won't hear about it.
Your time is valuable. Each joint venture will include:
YOU choose exactly who YOU want to work with!
Finally, a place to find non-internet marketing joint ventures as well. By subscribing to Joint Ventures Weekly you have the power to select the latest products before anyone else in your field.
In fact, some marketers have told me that if they could only utilize one marketing strategy it would be joint ventures fullstop.
If you have got a product or service to promote you know joint ventures are essential to your business. Joint ventures are when two or more people work on the same project. The most lucrative way to benefit from joint ventures is to let other people sell your product or service and share the profits with you. Some examples of cross promotions would be exchanging popups and testimonials.
In my online experience recently I have noticed that some forms of ezine advertising did not pull the results that would have been expected. If you are also spending hard earned money on ezine advertising there is a better and easier way.
An example of a joint venture unrelated to internet marketing would be a gym coming together with a company that produces body building supplements.
Joe Vitale made $25,000 from joint ventures from just one email.
So if you want to explore more fully the lucrative world of joint venture marketing how do you go about finding joint venture partners?
Old-fashioned ways of finding joint venture partners:
- Making a post on a forum if permitted by the moderator;
- Visiting individual websites and emailing the owner one by one;
- Spending time making contacts with other internet marketers online.
The new state-of-the-art way of finding joint venture partners:
By subscribing to Joint Ventures Weekly. Once in a while an ezine comes along that makes me sit up and take notice. My good friend Mike Woo-Ming has created such an ezine.
Each week you will receive a list of the TOP joint ventures for the hottest internet products and services.
Each joint venture is carefully screened and analysed before it reaches your inbox. If it doesn't meet the relevant criteria you won't hear about it.
Your time is valuable. Each joint venture will include:
- A detailed synopsis,
- Current conversion rates (unless new),
- Requirements,
- Length of joint venture offer.
YOU choose exactly who YOU want to work with!
Finally, a place to find non-internet marketing joint ventures as well. By subscribing to Joint Ventures Weekly you have the power to select the latest products before anyone else in your field.
The Psychology of Weight Loss: Part 1 - The INSIDE OUT Minds
WHAT DOES BEING FIT REALLY MEAN?
The "INSIDE-OUT" approach to fitness differs from that of conventional wisdom. Most programs work on diet and exercise alone. They give suggestions on what foods to eat through recipes, calorie-counting books, and exercise tips. While this way may work in the short run, eventually your motivation and desire to get in better shape disappears. In order to change your attitude and these unwanted behaviors, there are three things to learn about yourself:
How and what motivates you?
What are the reasons behind your unwanted behaviors?
What kind of support system is good for you?
The "INSIDE-OUT" approach is an on-going process. In theory, it is a simple common sense idea. In practice, it will take some hope, a little faith in yourself, and patience.
The goal is for you to develop a lifestyle that reflects this way of thinking.
You cannot sustain motivation to be active without pure motives.
You cannot change unwanted behaviors without knowing the reasons behind them.
You cannot stay focused without outside support.
You cannot eat smarter without a proper attitude toward food.
You cannot continue to be active without deep desires.
In a Nut Shell:
The "INSIDE-OUT" concept takes a look at your exercise and eating behaviors through a cognitive awareness approach. It deals with your motives, desires, and beliefs toward exercise and food. If you want to change attitudes and habits toward exercise and eating for the long haul, you are going to have to dig deep into WHY you feel the way you do about them. This will not be easy and it will take hard work.
I commend you for reading this; however, the reason you are is because you are not happy with who you are right now and how you feel. Twenty years ago I did not either. However, after changing from the INSIDE OUT, I today feel better than anytime in my life. And thousands of others have changed to by applying this approach. You are not alone. Let me help!
The "INSIDE-OUT" approach to fitness differs from that of conventional wisdom. Most programs work on diet and exercise alone. They give suggestions on what foods to eat through recipes, calorie-counting books, and exercise tips. While this way may work in the short run, eventually your motivation and desire to get in better shape disappears. In order to change your attitude and these unwanted behaviors, there are three things to learn about yourself:
How and what motivates you?
What are the reasons behind your unwanted behaviors?
What kind of support system is good for you?
The "INSIDE-OUT" approach is an on-going process. In theory, it is a simple common sense idea. In practice, it will take some hope, a little faith in yourself, and patience.
The goal is for you to develop a lifestyle that reflects this way of thinking.
You cannot sustain motivation to be active without pure motives.
You cannot change unwanted behaviors without knowing the reasons behind them.
You cannot stay focused without outside support.
You cannot eat smarter without a proper attitude toward food.
You cannot continue to be active without deep desires.
In a Nut Shell:
The "INSIDE-OUT" concept takes a look at your exercise and eating behaviors through a cognitive awareness approach. It deals with your motives, desires, and beliefs toward exercise and food. If you want to change attitudes and habits toward exercise and eating for the long haul, you are going to have to dig deep into WHY you feel the way you do about them. This will not be easy and it will take hard work.
I commend you for reading this; however, the reason you are is because you are not happy with who you are right now and how you feel. Twenty years ago I did not either. However, after changing from the INSIDE OUT, I today feel better than anytime in my life. And thousands of others have changed to by applying this approach. You are not alone. Let me help!
The Psychology of Weight Loss: Part 2 - How are you motivate
New Years Resolutions do not work because you are really not motivated when you think you are. On the surface you may be, but deep down you are not. That is why by April, that membership to the gym, those new clothes and that new found motivation has all but disappeared.
When it comes to weight loss and sticking to an exercising program you are motivated from two emotions; fear and pleasure. You are also pushed from two directions; internally and outwardly. Out of the four choices there are two good ones and two bad ones. In other words, two that will help you stick to losing weight and two that will eventually hinder you. Do you know which ones they are?
What motivates you to exercise? Fear of your health or Pleasure of feeling better
What drives you to exercise? Internally vital signs or Toned arms and legs
I best way of staying motivated is a combination of both. However, you have to figure out the combination. I'll give you a hint - pure motives are not seen. I believe that the journey goes from denying the reality of your health to a deep desire to take better care of yourself.
What does it mean to have deep desire for something? Remember those feelings you had back when you wanted your first bicycle. That Barbie doll you made a fit over in the toy store in front of everyone. Or what about that girl or boy you would have done just about anything for? There was such a hunger, a burning in your gut. You couldn't even think straight, eat or sleep because it occupied your every thought. You just had to have it!
If you want to go from denial to desire, call on the "all or nothing attitude." If you are going to start now, you have to start for good. The reality is you will have good attitude and bad attitude days for the rest of your life. But understand, if you are going to be healthier through exercise and eating, you are going to have to participate in some form of exercise till the day you die. This is not a temporary fix to a long-term problem; it is a lifestyle.
The bottom line of staying motivated to exercise and eat right is finding a meaningful reason too, not just because you have to.
When it comes to weight loss and sticking to an exercising program you are motivated from two emotions; fear and pleasure. You are also pushed from two directions; internally and outwardly. Out of the four choices there are two good ones and two bad ones. In other words, two that will help you stick to losing weight and two that will eventually hinder you. Do you know which ones they are?
What motivates you to exercise? Fear of your health or Pleasure of feeling better
What drives you to exercise? Internally vital signs or Toned arms and legs
I best way of staying motivated is a combination of both. However, you have to figure out the combination. I'll give you a hint - pure motives are not seen. I believe that the journey goes from denying the reality of your health to a deep desire to take better care of yourself.
What does it mean to have deep desire for something? Remember those feelings you had back when you wanted your first bicycle. That Barbie doll you made a fit over in the toy store in front of everyone. Or what about that girl or boy you would have done just about anything for? There was such a hunger, a burning in your gut. You couldn't even think straight, eat or sleep because it occupied your every thought. You just had to have it!
If you want to go from denial to desire, call on the "all or nothing attitude." If you are going to start now, you have to start for good. The reality is you will have good attitude and bad attitude days for the rest of your life. But understand, if you are going to be healthier through exercise and eating, you are going to have to participate in some form of exercise till the day you die. This is not a temporary fix to a long-term problem; it is a lifestyle.
The bottom line of staying motivated to exercise and eat right is finding a meaningful reason too, not just because you have to.
The Psychology of Weight Loss: Part 3 - Lose the hang ups!
We have missed the boat and your boat is sinking fast. You have weighted your ship down with stats, calories, grams and pounds. Now you are more confused than ever on how to lose weight, feel better and get stronger. We America catch up with the crisis, or will the diabetes and obesity epidemic sink us? The answer is not in the numbers the answer is in the psychology of weight loss. Yes, America's health will get worse before it gets better. In order for you to get better these two steps must take place:
Step #1: Get over your hang-ups!
Why is it so hard for me to start exercising? I know it's good for me. It seems like I have some form of resistance to getting in better shape.
"Exercise Resistance" or ER means a conscious or unconscious block against participating in a regular active program. Studies show that some people have barriers built up from past experiences that give them a negative mindset toward exercise and food. In many cases, this prevents a person from starting or following through on an exercise program.
RESENTMENT
I thought the golden years were supposed to be filled with relaxing things to do, not more activities I usually put off before?
Building up resentment toward exercise goes much deeper than just not liking the effort it takes to do it. Resentment brings out a rebellious attitude in us. The sooner you accept the fact that exercise is going to have to be a part of the rest of your life, the more likely you will start -- the more likely you will continue exercising. Resentment is usually fueled by his cousins: Denial, Pride and Laziness. The best thing to do is never let them play together. Resentment is a form of pride.
FAILURE
The only failure is not starting. Success is not measured in numbers. It is measured in your growth through the process. Just because your track record may show some ups and downs has no bearing on your future efforts. Plus, your self-worth is not based on how many times you started an exercise program. Fear of failure is an excuse to never try.
PERFECTION
If you think for one second that you are going to be perfect in sticking to a plan, forget it. It's not possible for anyone. The truth is you will never be perfect. Perfectionism is an illusion.
COMPARISONS
You will always compare your results to something or someone. Once you hit a goal there will always be another one. You may even be the type that no matter what you do, it will never be good enough. If you are this type, stop for a minute and listen to your body. Comparing yourself to others and your past is a losing battle.
EXPECTATIONS
If your expectations are too high, you set yourself up for failure and then begin comparing yourself to others. In some cases, ER sets in before you even start. This is hurtful. Setting expectations that are too high is self-defeating before you even start. Step #2: Change your false beliefs about food, exercise and life.
Getting to the ROOT of the matter
To change unwanted behaviors, it's important to acknowledge your thinking toward exercise and eating. A lot of people believe they know what that thinking is, but haven't come to grips with their core beliefs. In other words, they have to get to the "root of the matter." For FREE MINI COURES click here www.resolutions.bz
In order to change your attitude toward exercise and food, you have to understand the WHYs of the behavior.
You are going to have to dig deep, find the root of the problem, nurture and understand it.
Your BELIEF system
The reason you have certain behaviors is based on the core beliefs of your value system. It is here--inside--where things need to be addressed. Beliefs form barriers that stop you from starting or following through on a regular exercise and eating program. In order to change attitudes toward exercise you have to check under the surface.
It takes time, effort, and energy, and in some cases, outside professional assistance to get to the TRUTH of the matter.to see what is below, admit it is there and bring it up to the surface. If you have a hard time following through on an eating plan, chances are barriers have formed, and stop you from smooth sailing.
Do the math! Numbers do not lie. You either accept the road less traveled or you face the consequences. It's just that simple. This may resemble a scare tactic, but the bottom line is this is the reality. If you think for one second you are exempt, above reproach, or just relying on luck or faith, think again. Your best defense is a good offense.
Get over your hang ups. Get through your false belief's and GET MOVING!
Step #1: Get over your hang-ups!
Why is it so hard for me to start exercising? I know it's good for me. It seems like I have some form of resistance to getting in better shape.
"Exercise Resistance" or ER means a conscious or unconscious block against participating in a regular active program. Studies show that some people have barriers built up from past experiences that give them a negative mindset toward exercise and food. In many cases, this prevents a person from starting or following through on an exercise program.
RESENTMENT
I thought the golden years were supposed to be filled with relaxing things to do, not more activities I usually put off before?
Building up resentment toward exercise goes much deeper than just not liking the effort it takes to do it. Resentment brings out a rebellious attitude in us. The sooner you accept the fact that exercise is going to have to be a part of the rest of your life, the more likely you will start -- the more likely you will continue exercising. Resentment is usually fueled by his cousins: Denial, Pride and Laziness. The best thing to do is never let them play together. Resentment is a form of pride.
FAILURE
The only failure is not starting. Success is not measured in numbers. It is measured in your growth through the process. Just because your track record may show some ups and downs has no bearing on your future efforts. Plus, your self-worth is not based on how many times you started an exercise program. Fear of failure is an excuse to never try.
PERFECTION
If you think for one second that you are going to be perfect in sticking to a plan, forget it. It's not possible for anyone. The truth is you will never be perfect. Perfectionism is an illusion.
COMPARISONS
You will always compare your results to something or someone. Once you hit a goal there will always be another one. You may even be the type that no matter what you do, it will never be good enough. If you are this type, stop for a minute and listen to your body. Comparing yourself to others and your past is a losing battle.
EXPECTATIONS
If your expectations are too high, you set yourself up for failure and then begin comparing yourself to others. In some cases, ER sets in before you even start. This is hurtful. Setting expectations that are too high is self-defeating before you even start. Step #2: Change your false beliefs about food, exercise and life.
Getting to the ROOT of the matter
To change unwanted behaviors, it's important to acknowledge your thinking toward exercise and eating. A lot of people believe they know what that thinking is, but haven't come to grips with their core beliefs. In other words, they have to get to the "root of the matter." For FREE MINI COURES click here www.resolutions.bz
In order to change your attitude toward exercise and food, you have to understand the WHYs of the behavior.
You are going to have to dig deep, find the root of the problem, nurture and understand it.
Your BELIEF system
The reason you have certain behaviors is based on the core beliefs of your value system. It is here--inside--where things need to be addressed. Beliefs form barriers that stop you from starting or following through on a regular exercise and eating program. In order to change attitudes toward exercise you have to check under the surface.
It takes time, effort, and energy, and in some cases, outside professional assistance to get to the TRUTH of the matter.to see what is below, admit it is there and bring it up to the surface. If you have a hard time following through on an eating plan, chances are barriers have formed, and stop you from smooth sailing.
Do the math! Numbers do not lie. You either accept the road less traveled or you face the consequences. It's just that simple. This may resemble a scare tactic, but the bottom line is this is the reality. If you think for one second you are exempt, above reproach, or just relying on luck or faith, think again. Your best defense is a good offense.
Get over your hang ups. Get through your false belief's and GET MOVING!
The Psychology of Weight Loss: Part 4 - The Power of Praise!
Your success in sticking with an exercise and weight loss program may just come down to you asking for help - unless pride gets in your way. The key to longevity is surrounding yourself with people who will give you support followed up by accountability.
"A good team is one that has quality support, honest encouragement, and requires personal responsibility." From my e book The "A" Factor
Your Inner Circle
"You can tell a lot about a person by the friends they keep." This is a very true statement. Let me say this first. Many decisions in life have strings attached to them. Strings sometimes make it virtually impossible to accomplish any goal. However, it is important to be aware of who influences you the most. Usually there are two types of people around you:
Toxic, negative, pessimistic people Non-toxic, encouraging support people.
Negative, Pessimistic People: Toxic
You usually know these people. After being around them you feel physically and mentally drained. Toxic people are envious, cynical, and pessimistic by nature. If you try to get support and encouragement from this type of person, all you're going to get is frustrated. If possible, don't spend much time with them.
Positive, Optimistic People: Non-Toxic
On the other hand, if you are around those who are honest and encouraging, you become a reservoir of energy. Depending on how important change is to you, the choice of changing friends and certain relationships may be necessary. In other words, if you want to know about yourself, just look at the types of friends you have.
EnCOURAGEment
The most effective accountability systems I know are those that stress encouragement, accompanied by direct responsibility. Encouragement and support can come form different directions. In most cases, you're influenced by those with whom you most associate and those you most value in your life. The more you're positively reinforced, the more fulfilling the journey will be and the more memorable. It takes courage to take this step and if you make it, you should be applauded.
Responsibility
Even though you can't succeed alone, you still have to take some responsibility in your health and goals. Part of being responsible is sharing goals with close friends and support people. Take some pride in what you want to do. Take what you're doing seriously. If you don't have your health, what do you have?
"A good team is one that has quality support, honest encouragement, and requires personal responsibility." From my e book The "A" Factor
Your Inner Circle
"You can tell a lot about a person by the friends they keep." This is a very true statement. Let me say this first. Many decisions in life have strings attached to them. Strings sometimes make it virtually impossible to accomplish any goal. However, it is important to be aware of who influences you the most. Usually there are two types of people around you:
Toxic, negative, pessimistic people Non-toxic, encouraging support people.
Negative, Pessimistic People: Toxic
You usually know these people. After being around them you feel physically and mentally drained. Toxic people are envious, cynical, and pessimistic by nature. If you try to get support and encouragement from this type of person, all you're going to get is frustrated. If possible, don't spend much time with them.
Positive, Optimistic People: Non-Toxic
On the other hand, if you are around those who are honest and encouraging, you become a reservoir of energy. Depending on how important change is to you, the choice of changing friends and certain relationships may be necessary. In other words, if you want to know about yourself, just look at the types of friends you have.
EnCOURAGEment
The most effective accountability systems I know are those that stress encouragement, accompanied by direct responsibility. Encouragement and support can come form different directions. In most cases, you're influenced by those with whom you most associate and those you most value in your life. The more you're positively reinforced, the more fulfilling the journey will be and the more memorable. It takes courage to take this step and if you make it, you should be applauded.
Responsibility
Even though you can't succeed alone, you still have to take some responsibility in your health and goals. Part of being responsible is sharing goals with close friends and support people. Take some pride in what you want to do. Take what you're doing seriously. If you don't have your health, what do you have?
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